Writing spectacular and meaningful Wedding Vows
This article outlines Infinity Celebrancy’s tips on writing your Wedding Vows. We are civil marriage celebrants and will help you through every part of the legal processes. Some couples feel pressure writing vows. Will they honestly reflect how I feel about my future partner? We can give you tips to write individualised vows. Listening to couples’ vows is our favourite part of the wedding ceremony!
Speak as you would usually speak to each other in everyday life. Otherwise you might be nervous reading off the queue cards and it won’t sound like you at all. You are surrounded by people who love and know you!
Agree on a timeframe with your partner, but say everything you think is necessary.
It’s just between the two of you, not a public performance. On the day you’ll be so caught up with looking at each other that no-one else matters.
Say what you love about each other.
Acknowledge the past and how you became the couple you are. No part of the journey is painful as it brought you together!
Don’t forget to finish with “I love you!”
Start with some notes about your relationship and why you love your partner before structuring it into sentences. Start a few months out. Every time they do something cute or that you appreciate, write it down. You’ll soon have all the content you need to string together the perfect vows.
Some starter points when thinking about how to structure the sentences.
You can talk about how you met. ‘The first time I saw you, I…’
How you envision your life. ‘Together, we’ll spend our lives…’
What little things they do for you, you appreciate. ‘I love it when…, or I count my blessings because…’
What you respect about them. ‘The qualities I admire in you are…’
Why they bring out the best in you. ‘You have made me the best version of myself by …..’
What has your fiancé(e) taught you? ‘Without meeting you, I would have never thought …. was possible.’
At what moment did you realise this was the person you wanted to spend the rest of your life with?
What does your marriage mean to you?
Include a song lyric, movie quote or poem you can both relate to, or that your partner loves.
Promises to each other are great addition to add in your vows.
Once we read both your vows, we will let you know if one is longer than the other, so they match in length. We will also let you know if they need some minor alterations. Please have your vows completed a few weeks before your wedding day to give us time to work on your vows.
It’s also really special to keep your vows secret from each other and see the raw emotion and reactions on the day as you hear those words the very first time.
We also need to include one sentence in the ceremony, which is the legal vows. This is a legal requirement of getting married in the Guidelines on the Marriage Act 1961.
“I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, FULL NAME, take thee FULL NAME, to be my lawful wedded husband/wife/spouse.”